Last night, a couple girls and I got to talking about men, life and well, dating. I've grown interest in the whole idea of relationships and dating because of my nagging mother asking, "When are you going to get a boyfriend?" and my new blog: Rules of My Nonexistent Dating Life. My new blog is to be read with a sense of humor. I thought it was time I poked fun and my um, well, nonexistent dating life.
ANYWAY, us gals sat in my friend's room chatting away and I gathered some notes on our gab session. Whenever I get into conversations with my girlfriends about dating, I like to listen & learn. I don't know much about dating and my friends have experience. However, I do have my theories and rules.
I, believe in fairy tales. My mother and father met when they were 16 years old and have been together ever since; they are both 59. Call me delusional, but it's safe to say I know what true love looks like. One of the girls thinks that we are all meant to find the person we love, but knows that it doesn't happen for everyone and is open to never finding it. And the other girl doesn't want to fall in love. She wants to have fun, while I just think she is still emotionally bruised from her breakup with her boyfriend of 3 years. BUT, I could be wrong. We all know a Samantha-like person from Sex and The City.
Moving on, the latter of the two girls mentioned that European men are cheap. She's from Europe, so she would know. I was baffled. Why? Because I want to marry a non-American, preferably European, man and be a spoiled diva for the honeymoon part of our relationship. I also think that euro guys dress better than American men, giving them a certain swagger, which makes them innately more attractive and drool-worthy (hellloooooo nurse!). I also value culture outside of the US and I think that having a life partner that wasn't raised in America would add a sense of humility to my life. But isn't it funny that I am perturbed by the fact that European men are possibly cheap, even though I want a down-to-earth type of guy from another country? Ha, the irony.
We then talked about the idea that every decision in our life is subconsciously made in order to find true love. The open to never falling in love girl brought this up. Apparently, a psychologist came up with this concept. Something as little as not deciding to eat ice cream today because you don't want to get fat, because then you won't be attractive to the opposite sex is a part of this ideology. Sounds crazy, right? But it got me thinking. Why else do I really go to the gym? Hm. Other than trying to get back in shape and drop a few lbs, I want to find me a man, damn it.
I'm fine on my own and don't need to make a man my world (as we witnessed in many other girls), but having someone A PART of my world would be nice :). For me, going to the gym is linked to confidence. I need those endorphins to take-on my day.
We then got to the bottom line; the key to finding any special someone is confidence. A confident person attracts the person they want. Too much confidence and you've entered the cocky zone, which no one is fond of.
Meh, feel free to ignore this post. I just needed to reflect on some much needed girl talk.
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